Four aspects of life

Tuesday, April 29th, 2008 | Insanity

Self Help books are good.

But not nearly as good as a nice dark coffee, dark chocolate and a friend to share them with. But, at 3am there are very few cafes open and very few people awake to visit them with. So, I resort to reading books. (Not a hardship, let me tell you!)

I’ve been reading a few philosphical books lately and really enjoying them. Firstly, Dark Nights of the Soul recommended by Finder451 has been quite helpful.

This book has been quite good at getting me back into thinking about the bigger picture. Yes, what I’m going through right now is pretty suckful, but overall I’m doing pretty well.

The other book that I’m currently reading (also recommended by Finder451) is The Happiness Trap by Dr Russ Harris.

This is an interesting book in that it echos what my Psychologist has been saying all along. Life is not always sunshine and lollypops, so suck it in and dont run away from the hurt. Unless you face the pain, you’ll never feel true happiness. So, I’m facing my demons. It helps that I go armed with great friends and family to support me.

It’s also got me thinking about my own philosophies on life, the world, and all those in it. I think for an individual to be happy they require four things in life:

Joy, Security, Control and Dreams.

Joy - because you cant live without a bit of fun in your life.
Security - because you need to know you have a safe place to sleep at night
Control - because you need a measure of control and responsibility in your life to create fulfillment
Dreams - because you have to have the ability to look to the future with hope.

To a certain extent, I have those four elements in my life. I have the necessary ingredients to be content, so I just need to face the future and take it like a man. (Which means take it like a women who enjoys good coffee and dark chocolate.)

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